There is a museum on the edge of Carmarthen in South Wales, where there are some very fine embroidered samplers. I was particularly impressed, not only by the embroidery, but by the motto on one. I offer it for your encouragement:
A solitary blessing few can find;
Our joys with those we love are intertwined,
And he whose helpful tenderness removes
Th’obstructing thorn which wounds which wounds the breast he loves,
Smooths not another’s rugged path alone,
But scatters roses to adorn his own.
So, bless those you love, and bless yourself.