Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Eph.5:21-25)
This passage is always used to talk about husbands and wives, parents and children. We can apply it to the wider family of grandparents and so on, but I want to apply it also to the church family.
This passage refers back to Gen.1-3 when everything was created in perfection. This is also the calling of God for us to model the way life ought to be.
1. Submit to one another
Today submission is negative but the biblical meaning is the willing giving of ourselves to someone who has our best interests at heart. Society thinks of power because of status, qualifications etc. But submission does away with that. We need to recognise the move of the spirit in fellow church members and not look at how long they’ve been a member, been a Christian, or how much they know.
Christ has headship over the church. Perfect submission, all is at rest. (Blessed Assurance hymn)
2. We should love one another.
Love one another the way that Christ loves the church. Not we love them because they submit or if they submit. Christ said, Love one another as I have loved you.
Is your love in your family and in church reflective of the love of Christ?
3. We should be respectful
We should respect our elders, but they invest in the next generation. Male figures should be an example to the younger generation.
We are a work in progress. Let God speak into your family situations about how you speak, act, live.
You can offend others unintentionally but you can only take offence deliberately (Jeff Fewkes)
[based on a sermon by Pete Orphan at Pantygwydr Baptist Church]